7 Indicators to Determine If You Are Emotionally Bound

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Your answers to these seven questions can determine if you are emotionally bound:

1. Are you perpetually unhappy and you don’t know why?

2. Do you say ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’?

3. Do you constantly experience failed relationships in your personal, work, or church life?

4. Do you experience anger, bitterness, or frustration often?

5. Are you tired of setting goals and never seem to accomplish them?

6. Are you tired of making money, but always living in poverty?

7. Do you seem to attract people into your life who are not spiritually, emotionally, or financially healthy and you think this is the best you can do?

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you are experiencing emotional bondage. Now, please go back and re-visit your answers, and write down why you answered yes to that particular question. Don’t be discouraged. You can break this bondage off of your life.

First, let’s look at the definition of emotional bondage: Emotional bondage occurs when:

1. you constantly make choices that bring hurt and pain into your life

2. you have thoughts that are almost always negative or frightening

3. you are not enjoying the life you are living.

Do thoughts come to you and you wonder why that thought just popped into your mind? Do your emotions sometimes overtake you? Do you get tired of crying at every drop of the hat? Do you wonder why you behave the way you do around certain people or in certain situations? When one is emotionally bound, there is a major attack on something termed ‘your soul.’


Your soul is your mind, will, and emotions. Your mind houses your thoughts. Your will houses your behavior. Your emotions dictate your feelings. While your soul is invisible to the outside world. We allow emotional bondage to dictate to us that it is more important to take care of our external self, than our internal self.


When you are emotionally bound, you spend more time dressing up your outer self than you do healing your inner self, healing your emotional wounds. For instance, let’s take the couple who are always dressed to the nine’s. The husband wears Stacey Adams shoes, Pierre Cardin suits and splashes on Kenneth Cole cologne. His wife? She wears her red bottom Louboutin sling-backs, Donna Karan off-the-shoulder dresses, a splash of Fendi, and carries a Gucci purse. They are the image of success and happiness. What about the family who attends church regularly? Whenever the doors of the church are opened, they are in attendance. Or, what about the senior couple, both in their middle 70’s, always smiling and holding hands.

You could never tell by looking at any one of these individuals if they are or are not entangled by emotional bondage. Maybe you do not wear Stacey Adams, or carry a Gucci purse, but, still, the intent is to cover up the hurt, to dress it up so that no one notices that you are dying on the inside. There are professional people who are willing to help you deal with your internal problem of being emotionally bound. Therapists, doctors, and pastors are professional people trained to assist those in emotional trouble in getting set free so that they can live a life of emotional freedom. I was once emotionally bound and now I am free.

write by turner

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